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The Daily SlackerThe Daily Slacker

Procrastinator Extraordinaire!

Friday, June 10, 2005

Several of you commented that I'm procrastinating on the whole Conservative Girl/"Talk" thing. Am I?

Damn Skippy.

August has a great post about thinking over the whole situation to make sure you're not making a mistake. That's definitely not the case here.

At this point it's pretty silly that we're still dating. It's almost definitely a dating just to be dating scenario. We've known each other a little over two years, been "dating" for a good chunk of that. Never once has the L word been used. Several times the subject of the future has come up, and the best either of us can muster is "I don't know, I hadn't really thought about it." If that's not a tip off, I don't know what is.

Problem is, I don't really want to NOT be dating. I do like her, but I don't have any real feelings and there are several things that downright bother me with her sometimes. I guess it just feels nice to be dating someone. I guess part of me thinks that she's a sweet girl, tons of potential, I should like her. Arg.

Another reason I'm still "dating" her, and this is probably screwed up, is because I worry for her being out there with other guys. What I mean is that she's overly nice and extremely naive. She is almost definitely going to get taken advantage of by someone and end up hurt. As an example, she was hanging out with one of her guy friends, and invited another friend to come out. The first one got mad and now doesn't hang out with her. She had no idea why he would be like that. I said "It's simple, he was hanging out with you hoping to get a piece, and with another friend there, that wasn't going to happen." Naive with a capital N. Is being protective justification to be dating just to be dating?

Arg, the whole thing just sucks. Not to mention I'm soooo off my game for trying to go out and find dates. It's been about 4 years since I was really out in the "singles" crowd. Blah.

I'm outta here in a couple minutes, I'm probably going to end up going to the wedding. I need a ride to my parents place anyway and it's near there.

Why can't things be simple? I'm afraid of being the asshole, so I'm being nicer than I should. But now I kinda feel like that's making me become the asshole anyway.

posted by Chief Slacker @ 10:17 AM,


At Fri Jun 10, 02:34:00 PM, Blogger Ms. Charisma said...

Good luck,

remember, staying with someone just to not be single isn't the right answer.

At Fri Jun 10, 03:03:00 PM, Blogger Diva in Training said...

I agree with August. Also if you are only datting her because she’s naive is a big no-no. It seems you are trying to play protector instead of being interested in actually being with this person. It's like being a overprotective parent and in the end the child ends up resenting you.

At Fri Jun 10, 04:29:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's okay to be an asshole, man.

Just drive a couple nails into it, burn the bridge, and move on.

At Fri Jun 10, 04:38:00 PM, Blogger Pink said...

if she's naive, the only way she's gonna wisen up is through experience - let her live&learn, its not ur job to shield her - and besides, it sounds like u hav a friendship as it is, so u may as well jst stay friends & have a nice mutual breakup. nobody likes to be single, but at the same time - nobody stays single long!! - and u spend ENOUGH time online!!- u can sign up to those zillion singles sites out there... ;)

At Fri Jun 10, 08:22:00 PM, Blogger Jezzy said...

You're not being an asshole - assholes don't bother to think things through like you do! x

At Sat Jun 11, 04:11:00 AM, Blogger Amanda said...

You may feel like an asshole, and yes, you may hurt her unintentionally. BUT...in the end, it will be better for you both to move on if you know there's nothing more than friendship.

At Sat Jun 11, 07:28:00 AM, Blogger fudgebumpkin said...

Wow, this reads like an agony aunt column...

I think you enjoy it.

You're putting off breaking up with her cos you like the sympathy from all these random people, or you think it makes you sound interesting to have a love dilemma. After all it's something to blog about.

However, I think once you've done the deed, there'll be an even greater dilemma to write about, and plenty more sympathy. It's a win win situation.

Do it.

At Sun Jun 12, 01:27:00 AM, Blogger Chief Slacker said...

Yeah, I hear you all, though not the looking for sympathy part. I'm mostly in this at this point because I'm to lazy, and really haven't had a real good excuse to get out. Part of me thinks taht she's a good, nice girl, that I should like her, but don't. After this weekend though, I have a pretty good excuse.

At Mon Jun 13, 08:55:00 AM, Blogger Amy said...

Do you need a girlfriend Nick? I mean, you seem to have your shit together...fuck it...dump the girl...be single for a bit...just don't turn into Captain B :)

At Mon Jun 13, 10:47:00 AM, Blogger Chief Slacker said...

Definitely don't NEED, but it's certainly nice ot have soemone around ;O)


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