The Delayed Date.
Wednesday, July 20, 2005It's just kind of a blah day today. Like my moody thing says, I'm just kinda blank today. Not real sure if I'm down, but certainly not up. I do know that my heart and my brain need to get on the same page though.
The date last night was ok, nothing real special. It ended up being pretty short.
Apparently she got done working on coding with her friend earlier than she thought. She found out that her grandma had gone on a bus trip to a casino and her grandpa was home alone and thought it would be nice to go over and have dinner with him. Apparently he didn't understand she was coming over for dinner and didn't come in of the lake for a while. So instead of dinner being at 6, it was at 8. Not exactly sure why it took two hours to figure out the miscommunication...
Anyway, she came over at about 10:15. We chatted for a little bit, gave her the tour of The Condo, made a couple drinks and then we settled in to watch Finding Neverland. Good movie.
We did a little of the hand holding for a while and about halfway through the movie she laid her head on my lap. Nothing special, just being a little snuggly.
After the movie there were a couple kisses, and then she said she should head out. I offered for her to stay, but she gave the standard "I usually sleep better in my own bed" response. I walked her to her car, have her a kiss and hug goodnight and that was the date.
A little disappointing because it happened so late and being put on the side burner that long. But oh well. We'll be hanging out again at the Kickball Playoffs on Thurs and supposedly on Friday as well. Hopefully those nights will go better!
*EDIT* For the record I do think the date went well, I'm just in a semi-bummed mood right now and I think some of that came across in the post. I wish it could have been longer, but it was good. I am hoping the next couple will go even better though!
*EDIT2* One thing I did like is that when she referred to "friends" she used names this time. Instead of "I did this with my friend." It was "I did this with my friend Nate." At least the communication is opening up...
posted by Chief Slacker @ 9:29 AM,
13 Comments:
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At Wed Jul 20, 11:37:00 AM,
Me said...
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I remember that feeling all too well and completely understand. It sounds like it did go well...just not enough time. Sounds like another date is in your future :)
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At Wed Jul 20, 11:43:00 AM,
Marie said...
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I understand. Overall it sounds like a nice time, but it would have been nice to have more time together and perhaps a little more intimacy (not just physical). I hope you have a good day, Chief. :)
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At Wed Jul 20, 11:53:00 AM,
Chief Slacker said...
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Diana - It wasn't bad, didn't mean to make it out to be that way. She was wearimg a skimpy grey cotton cami and snuggly jeans, I had on khaki cago shorts and a white t-shirt. Girl, don't be teasing me about visiting ;O)
Diana - Well *hugs* to you. You'll rock out the exam I'm sure!
Beth - Yeah, went well. the next two are group things though so it sucks we can't have more alone time. I'll take what I can though should be fun!
Marie - yeah, it would be nice to hang out and get to know her more. -
At Wed Jul 20, 01:42:00 PM,
Chief Slacker said...
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Cat - I hope I do too! not suer what I'm up to tonight. I think Conservative Girl is going to stop by and bring the Hell's Kitchen Episode I missed monday.
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At Wed Jul 20, 01:44:00 PM,
said...
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I'm having one of those days too. I wish it was time for my new job already b/c things are getting so uncomfortable in this job.
I hope the next date lasts a little longer and ends on a more positive note. -
At Wed Jul 20, 01:45:00 PM,
Jennifer said...
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u gotta love a cami.
also gotta love that you actually know what a cami IS!!
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At Wed Jul 20, 02:09:00 PM,
jlybn123 said...
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Awww...cheer up! I know we all have our not-so-great days, but c'mon now..
Doesn't sound like the night was a waste or anything! Maybe by next week, you will have a more promising update on the status...
Have a better day! -
At Wed Jul 20, 02:17:00 PM,
Chief Slacker said...
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JPD - yeah, long overlap times like that ALWAYs start to suck at the end. I hope they keep getting better too. What would give to spend the night with a cute girl right now. After the one time I got the taste and suddenyl realized how muc I like it again...
J Leigh - And no I'm not gay ;O) I just make a good shopping buddy!
JlyBn - Defintiely not a waste. It sjut feels so nice to have her around, wish it didn't have to be short! -
At Wed Jul 20, 04:44:00 PM,
Chief Slacker said...
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Lil Country - I keep telling myself I need ot take a weekend off or something, but that never happens. I'm to ADD to jsut sit around. And I am glad she still did come over.
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At Wed Jul 20, 04:54:00 PM,
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Here's a pointer.
Her head on your lap = make a major move.
Holding hands = make a move.
You'll get much better results if you go for a kiss much earlier in the date. Open the date with a hug (at the VERY least, if not a kiss)! Get the atmosphere stirred up early so that more things will happen later.
It's like starting a lawnmower after you've pushed it across the whole lawn - not a lot of grass is gunna be cut, right?
But if you start the lawnmower before pushing it...you know?
What I'm saying is get things heated up early, and then the remaining time can be used to progress the events onward.
Yes, I'm a fairly lethal dater. -
At Wed Jul 20, 09:33:00 PM,
Kira said...
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You know what I hate? The first couple of dates with ANYBODY. That's the time when you try and figure out if you're going somewhere as a unit, and if so, where that destination is. I'm always much happier when New Male Stud and I figure that one out.
That being said, it sounds like a fine warm up. And since she was not for staying the night, I'm thinking it's probably a good thing you didn't follow CB's advice there ;) -
At Thu Jul 21, 09:05:00 AM,
Chief Slacker said...
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Kira - Yeah, taht whole "Get to know you" period is always strange. That's why it'd be nice to have a good quiet night where we can talk about things. Hanging out is fun, but I don't really know her well.
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At Fri Jul 22, 12:04:00 PM,
Chief Slacker said...
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Amy - Who wouldn't wanna bone you? :O)